3 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself For Good

Raise your hand if these thoughts have ever crossed your mind:

– I wish I were…

– I don’t fit in

– I’m not pretty enough

– If I was as smart as her, I could do…

If you have experienced these thoughts, Sis, you are not alone.

With a few seconds of scrolling Facebook or Instagram, your mind will be flooded with all sorts of garbage that change the perspective of who you think you should be. That feeling creeps in, and ultimately you are stuck in this state of mind feeling nothing but alone in life. That my friend is comparison, and comparison is the thief of our joys in life.

Comparison is not fair. We often compare the worst of who we are to the best of who someone else is. It has no value, and it serves no purpose. Comparison paralyzes us dead in our tracks, which in turn stops us from taking the next step forward and devalues all the things we are working towards.

It blurs our vision, so we do not see the beauty of our greatness. It fuels us to be competitive, instead of being open to collaborating. It builds a wall so others aren’t able to see the light you can shine on to them.

No matter how many people are in our corner cheering us on, helping us try to reveal our gifts ultimately it is up to us. We need to be comfortable in our own identity to show up and stand true to who we are. You will always have the decision to move away from the perspective of comparison.

Here are three ways on how you can:

Embody a grateful mindset

A grateful mindset allows us to constantly see the beauty in all of what we do and who we are. When we are in this mindset we stand strong in embracing our potential rather than devouring our lack. When we live in a state of comparison we freely give our time, and energy away. When we live in a state of gratitude we own our time and cultivate joy.

Embrace Your Journey

Nobody can be you, better than you! You are a solo version of yourself, and a gift on this Earth. It doesn’t matter if you have one degree or ten degrees. If you got those degrees at 20, 30, or 40. None of that matters, what matters is that you are destined for your unique journey and you should fully embrace it in its entirety.

Be Inspired Rather Than Jealous

Comparing our weaknesses to other strengths is the fruit of all evil. Take your time to learn from what they are doing, what their journey has been like, and what their gifts entail. Learning triggers inspiration, and when we learn how others overcame their obstacles it paints the picture of what is possible for us. When we are inspired it prompts a positive change within us where comparison promotes negativity.

You are a gift. You are destined for greatness. Be unapologetically you, and no one else!